Tuesday, July 15, 2008

The Doctor Is IN

Guess what? Justin and I fight. *GASP* I know, right? Heaven forbid someone should admit that they don't have a perfect marriage. But we are totally okay with the fact that there are a lot of times we simply don't get along. Mostly because we know everyone else is still struggling with the same stuff we do.

Anyhow, we got into it on Sunday night about something or other (Doesn't it say something that I can't even remember what we were arguing about) and together we stumbled on the most profound relationship truth that has ever been discovered. And of course, I thought I would share it, and let everyone else know, to further enhance YOUR relationship.

Are you ready? This is pretty big time, ground breaking stuff.

The problem with EVERY marriage that has ever existed is this:

Every woman thinks her marriage is worse than it is.
Every man thinks his marriage is better than it is.

See the problem? Whereas men are becoming comfortable and complacent in their relationships, women are pulling out their hair trying to figure out how to fix them.

And they are both wrong. True, some marriages do need serious help because they are in serious trouble. But for the most part, I really think that men just need to work a little harder, and that women need to worry a bit less, and we'd strike a balance that was pretty near perfect. Guys, put a little effort into your marriage. Your wife works hard. She would love to know that you put a little bit of thought into her needs and wants. Girls, give your husband a break. Honestly, if he is doing his part to support you, cut him a break if he doesn't sprinkle rose petals all over your house. It does not mean your marriage is failing. It means it's normal.

One of my favourite quotes of all time is this:
"Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed. The fact is that most putts don’t drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to be just like people, most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration, and most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. Life is just like an old time rail journey ... delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders, and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride."

I try to remember this when the house is a mess, there's no food in the fridge, I haven't showered and yet still become offended when my husband doesn't leap through the door with a box of chocolates.

So there it is. By the way, my fee is $135 an hour. Yes, I take Paypal.


Rob & Janelle said...

So true, Jae! Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

Pyper said...

Amen sista!!! Great and profound.

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